A great Irish parting song. "Good night and joy be with you all"
Starting with an Interlude it gets you ready for the awesome song that is Tesselate. Alt-J are making the kind of music that resonates with me :)
“We must find time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives.”
― John F. Kennedy
What does it mean to be a balanced person?
People will tell you different things. You have to be this and you have to be that, if you want to be balanced. But can you ever achive this? You wish you could. I do to.
You want the kind of life that is fulfilling and rewarding. So much has been written about this subject that I sometimes wonder if somebody ever achieved it and felt they were on the right track all the way.
I feel this way now but, first of all, I ‘m not 100% sure and secondly it took me weeks to reach a decision. And this is just the decision. Anyway, I believe the first step is the decision and a journey of a thousand steps starts with the first step. I’m getting all clichee here, hehe.
Finding yourself at the crossroads is never easy. I know it. You know it too, I’m sure. All you can do is take a decision you feel is best for you and go with it. I even tried flipping a coin because apparently you’ll realize what side of the coin you root for. It didn’t work for me unfortunately.
So much has been written on the subject, if you search online, but it all boils down to you. What you want, what have you got, what’s the thing that you see yourself doing happily 40 years, continously. Tough, I know.
I don’t want to give you 10 simple ways to make a decision or 25 ways you can live a happy life and so on and so forth. Fuck it, make the decision. If it’s bad, you’ll learn from it and if it’s good then enjoy it to the fullest.
Coming back to what it means to be a whole person, first of all, I believe it means to have a little bit of everything. The human experience is unlimited, enjoy it. The second part is sacrificing. Sacrificing one part for another one. It will give you a hard time sometimes. People expect all from you but you can’t give it to them if you want balance. What I’ve written here is not for those of you that want to focus on just the professional side of life. This side is artificial. Made by men with interests. Good or bad. The personal side of life is the natural side of life. It’s easy to give in. It might not even be a bad choice to do so sometimes. Make sure it’s what you want.
The concept of the “comfort zone” might appear at a certain point. Is a mother raising her child staying in her comfort zone? Is a Zen monk, meditating, staying in his comfort zone? How do you define the comfort zone? Should one not desire comfort? Can you ever be happy while not finding a balance between comfort and growth? How fast should you grow? What is growth after all? What’s the end result?
I’m not saying one or the other. What I write is 80% bullshit. It is so because you are not me and vice-versa. The remaining 20% is my own experience. All I saw in all the articles I’ve read on the subject are consistent to the 80-20 rule.
What I’ve written is not a carte blanche in making any sort of decision. Think it through. Weigh everything. Go on an introspection exploration. I don’t have answers. Who says he/she has an answer, remember that: that answer is true only to that particular person. Stay away from answers. Learn to ponder questions instead.
Questions are always helpful. Questions that you answer yourself are your compass in the world.
I’ll start. Am I a balanced person at the moment?